Whack Shit
Just a rant.
Girls should always be respected. I can’t stand dudes that take advantage of girls. Halloween was crazy. But was all the partying worth it? No doubt some people are going to have a great time. But there will those that get hurt from the crazy environment. Drinking makes people do crazy things…that’s the nature of it. A lot of things happen when people a drunk that wouldn’t normally be tolerable when sober. What’s the fine line between “w/e they are drunk” and “that shits just fucked up.” As a member of fraternity throwing a party I can’t help but feel personally responsible for what happens. I mean it’s my house, my living room, my alcohol and what not. The other night at one of our parties this girl had a little too much to drink. Her friends saw her making out with some guy on the couch. This stuff isn’t too out of the normal. But what are the friends of the girl supposed to do? Kick the guy off? In that situation is tough to say what the right thing is to do—no one wants to be a cock block. But when is it too far? Later that night the girls friends couldn’t find the girl. I found out later that she was upstairs having sex in our bathroom… While this was happening her friends were frantically looking for her. The dude’s friends lied to them and misdirected them. They eventually figured out that they were lying and found their friend. She was so drunk that she couldn’t even stand. Is this rape? It’s not my job to make sure nothing at a party goes wrong, but I can’t help but feel terrible for letting such an event happen in my house. I heard the girl was a virgin too. She wasn’t a really big party girl, and she is pretty conservative. But the world isn’t perfect or fair and shit happens. I just really feel like if people are going to party it’s really important that they are careful. No one expects these things to happen, but sometimes they do, and once they do there is no turning back the clocks.
This event was just really eye-opening for me. Initially I thought I wanted to leave this fraternity for sure now. I didn’t want to be connected to this kind of stuff. However, I realized that running away from this isn’t going to change things. The main reason why I feel partially responsible for this is that when the girls friends asked the bros for advice on what to do, the bros hesitated and were too drunk to do anything useful. At the time I was locked up in my room because I wasn’t feeling too well. Reasons set aside I feel like if we throw parties we also have the responsibility that the party be a safe environment. This might be too much for a bunch of college guys to handle, but damn I can’t believe this happened in the toilet I use everyday.
